The discussion we had in class the other day kind of opened my eyes to what can be considered erotic, but I'm still not sure on what I think eroticism actually means. I guess, at the moment, I'd say it's more of a mental state of mind where someone feels attracted to a person, thing, or concept. That attraction can be to things traditionally seen as erotic, or things most would find completely unattractive or mundane. So, some people are into the whole chains and whips kind of thing while other people are into even stranger things than that.
It feels weird even discussing this kind of thing, though, even online. It's a subject that's pretty sensitive to people and I'm sure a lot of people would rather no one talk about it at all. But as weird as it is to talk about, I think it's good to talk about so people can understand more about sex and eroticism and not feel so embarrassed about it. The less embarrassed you are about sex, the easier it is to talk with your partner about when you have issues in the bedroom (or at least, that's what I think).
I had similar feelings about the topic of eroticism being strange to discuss in class at first. I am a pretty private person in public settings, and sometimes when people share lots of details about their personal lives in group settings I feel uncomfortable. For this reason, I have never really done a whole lot of thinking on the topic of eroticism and had always just loosely associated it with a sexual connotation. So my eyes were also opened in class when we discussed what can be erotic, and I was pleasantly surprised with the vastness of the term.
ReplyDeleteI completely understand what you mean. I am pretty open to talking about this kind of stuff when it comes to my boyfriend, or even my close friends, and sometimes someone else if the subject were to come up one on one, but when it's a open discussion in class, I do feel restricted on my words because to me, this topic isn't necessarily normal to discuss in a classroom haha. It was a big no-no to discuss in middle school and even high school so this is very different. But I do agree that it is good to talk about to others so you can get a better understanding and to better talk about it to your partner in the bedroom for a more pleasurable experience.
ReplyDeleteIt did feel a bit different discussing this topic in class, but I'm glad we did because it helped me understand it a bit better.
ReplyDeleteI think it was kind of weird at first to talk about it, but when Hamon started referencing the authors of that past who have written about the subject, it made it less awkward for the most part. It shows this subject has persisted since the beginning of human nature and curiosity. It's also nice to see how its evolved through time and things that have happened in history.
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